Yet another change of blog title – it’s an identity thing ;)

name tags with pen on tableSo, I’ve been ’round the barn (and back) with the name of this blog.

It was “Aspie Under Your Radar” for a while. A long while.

Then it was … something else that I can’t remember.

Then it was “And Now for my Next Trick”.

Now it’s “I CAN Be Autistic” — as a sort of riff on the whole She Can’t Be Autistic thing that was going ’round Twitter, way back when, with all these people coming up with reasons why Autistic women “can’t be autistic”.


I don’t want to get into a shouting/pissing/bitching match with everybody who has their own opinions about how Autism manifests in women / men / enbies / queerz. Everybody can (and will) have their own opinions about how sh*t goes and manifests in people. Everybody has their own experience. I’m not here to convince anyone of anything, just speak my piece and not hold my peace about things that I really am not okay with.

Just so you know, the whole venting thing appeals less and less to me, each day. Maybe I’m just too old for that sh*t. I’ve passed the 50-year mark several years ago, and time has granted me a different perspective than what I’ve had in the past. I have more perspective, in point of fact. And a lot of the stuff that used to infuriate me just kinda amuses me now.

Elvis Costello sings “Well, I used to be disgusted. Now I’m just amused…”

I hate the rest of the song (along with most of his music, sorry if you’re  a fan), but that line has come in handy tons of times, so he gets a pass.

Anyway, what’s in a name? A whole lot, actually. The name of this blog tends to set the stage for what I write about, so we’ll go with this “Yep, I’m Autistic – here’s why” theme for a while. Until I decide I’d rather do something else, of course.

That tends to happen. I’ve been around long enough to realize it’s very likely to happen again. But for the time being, I’ll just talk about my experience, and people can do what they like with it.


4 thoughts on “Yet another change of blog title – it’s an identity thing ;)

  1. I enjoy hearing you talk about your experiences but in this case I have a question I want some help with: ” We can say “I am autistic” or, “I’m an Aspie” , but what if you are using the word Aspergers. Do one HAVE Aspergers? That makes it sound like a disease. You wouldn’t want to say you suffer from Aspergers, even if some of us do from time to time. That makes you sound like a victim. I am a person with Aspergers sounds a bit sniffy and longwinded. So, what on earth do you say?

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    1. VisualVox

      Are usually say, I’m an Aspie, or I’m on the spectrum, or I’m autistic. It’s tricky, because everybody has a different interpretation of what exactly that means. I tend to “play to the audience”, if you will. I use the words they understand, except I don’t say that I necessarily have anything. Because my character is not a condition.

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  2. I was very confused when I first saw this post in my reader. “When did I follow this blog?” Oohhh… yes, my memory is still a swiss cheese, but this isn’t an example of it👍
    Other than the antics of King Ben, it takes a lot for me to get worked up too. I love being 50. (I’m going to be 50 until I’m 55 in 2023 because I can never remember my age.🤦‍♀️ Swiss cheese again)😂

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