What would make #Atypical discussions even better…

… is if the producers and everyone lauding the show would incorporate a little humility into their public discussion.

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It feels like people are all just talking over each other.

It feels like everyone is yelling at each other over the show Atypical, and people are predictably falling into fight-flight mode, which doesn’t help our ability to parse nuance… at all. A lot of people are trying to make their points, and in the process, they’re doing it in a way that literally shuts down the other side and makes it impossible for others to hear them.

I’m not tone policing. Not even close. I’m just giving folks a heads-up that our bodies may be preventing our minds from engaging properly. This is simple biochemistry — the mechanics of our autonomic nervous system (the sympathetic side of it), which does what ever it damn’ well pleases, regardless of what we want it to. It’s very simple, actually. We get worked up, and we can’t handle nuance, variation, higher reasoning.

Anyway, I think a simple statement from the creators and producers of the show would help immensely.

Here’s my suggestion for a statement from them:

In Atypical, We’ve done our best to portray an autistic character as realistically as possible, but of course autism is a broad spectrum and people’s traits can be changeable from one situation to the next. So we’re going to have Sam evolve as a person — as an autistic person — and we’re going to also show how this affects his family.

Parents and siblings of autistic kids are often isolated and alienated from their peers, which means they don’t get a lot of the support and acceptance that many families just take for granted. We want to tell a story they can relate to, so they don’t feel so alone. We also want to portray autism in a way that helps explain it better to them, because even though they have lived with an autistic member of their family, unless you are autistic, it’s very difficult to understand the experience in all its complexity.

We also know we have a lot to learn about autism, ourselves, and some of the assumptions we started with are probably going to be wrong (maybe completely wrong) as we ourselves evolve, so bear with us as we work through the issues. We apologize in advance for any ‘ham-handed’ treatment you may see. Our intention is to do good, not perpetuate the stereotypes and harmful generalizations which keep autistic individuals from being understood and accepted. And by all means, we invite input from our audience — especially our autistic viewers, who have been misrepresented and dismissed in society for so many years.

Autism affects us all — even a lot of people who don’t realize it. And like any complex situation which involves individuals, family, school, work, and our broader communities, it can be quite a ‘minefield’ of misunderstanding and misrepresentation. We don’t want to add yet more explosives to this already tricky terrain. We’re human, and we know we’ll make mistakes along the way. We just hope our audience will remember that and help us correct our course, as we proceed. It’s our hope that Atypical will become a lasting contribution to the public discussion about autism, and that we will not only teach about how autism affects the whole family, but also learn more as we go.

There. That would fix a lot of the distress about Atypical, I think. Just a simple statement to that fact — humility in action. Love in action. And good PR.

If anybody on the Atypical PR team wants to use this — or a form of it — feel free. I just want us all to start talking to each other like human beings (not partisan opponents) who have a vested interest in each other’s health and well-being… and are willing to show it.

Oh, and truth. A vested interest in truth would be awesome! 😀

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4 thoughts on “What would make #Atypical discussions even better…

  1. Watched the first episode last night. There will be mistakes as we all try to get heard, understood and work towards positive change for our people. I love this letter you created. We’ll get better as we go — no one has this right, yet. No one. There isn’t a singular “right” either. This is a start and there is some amazing Autistic humor in the episode that feels like my lived experience — which is why I was LOL so hard. I don’t LOL at movies that much, so this was humor I finally got I think. Giving it a chance and will watch more episodes. If there’s something we feel incorrect, can’t we blog about it, vlog about it, and help them understand more? Launch that conversation with folks who are engaged and do want to listen? I mean I awkwardly fuck up shit all the time. All the way through. I appreciate NT compassion when I do that in their world — imagine being NT and coming into our world. Hah, they got some learnin to do!

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