The Hurdles of Haircuts

I wrote this post almost 10 years ago – wow, how time flies. It’s still worth mentioning. For sure.

Just Under Your Radar

This post comes from a reply I made to a post over at (now defunct) Aspergers World. It turned out to be a lot longer than I originally intended to write, but I think it could help shed light on the dreaded issue of Aspie kids getting haircuts.

I’m a 43-year-old Aspie woman whose mother gave up taking me to the hairdresser when I was pretty young — probably around age 4 or 5, because I had so much trouble with it. She started cutting my hair at home, until she did a really awful job on the Saturday before Easter Sunday, and since my dad was the pastor of the church, we couldn’t show up at church looking like bedraggled ragamuffins! I squirmed so much when she was trying to cut my hair, that she couldn’t cut straight, if she’d tried! So, we were marched off to the home of…

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2 thoughts on “The Hurdles of Haircuts

  1. Oh. My. Goodness. I’ve never come across another hairdresser “refuser”. I’m now 56, I was 20 when I got married, and the last time I visited the hairdresser was the day before my wedding. At the time I thought I needed to do the traditional bride thing and I did want to be like everyone else at that time. It was my last visit. I can’t bear people touching my head, all that kind of wispy touching makes me shudder inside and that day I wanted to run away and cry. It wasn’t the experience I had expected as a bride to be. My work colleagues didn’t believe me when I first said this, long before we knew about my autism. They wanted to know how I get my hair cut, and my reply was simple, look at it, simple fringe (bang for those of you over the pond), and long enough to plait. I cut my own fringe in the mirror, and my husband or one of my daughters cuts the rear length, but not often. I can put up with family doing it, but not strangers. And I don’t have to answer pointless questions about where I might be going on holiday, or not. It’s amazing, I keep finding other Aspies with the same quirks as me. All those years, 56 of them, and I had no idea I had a tribe out there so like me. I love it.

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    1. VisualVox

      Ah, that’s great! Welcome! My solution now is to go to a barber, so I don’t have to deal with “lady” hairstyles — and all the pressure to get one. I still have difficulties, but it’s so much better now. And the barber works quickly. I find myself really tense and anxious — sitting rigid under the cover-up, and needing to remind myself to relax and breathe. Unfortunately, I can’t take long hair – the feel of it and the flying everywhere and catching it on things is even worse than getting my haircut. Nowadays, I get my hair cut really short, so I can go a few months before getting it cut again. Ah, well. There are more traumatic things, I suppose. It’s the price I pay for being moderately presentable.

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