I have not been as focused as I’d like to be, over the past months… and years.
I have not been taking care of things that I should be taking care of. I’ve fallen behind in many ways that I really do not like.
I know I need to fix this. But how?
So, I asked a friend who’s really into psychology. She does it for a living. She’s telling me that in order to get my life in order — to the degree I want — I need to harness my motivation. I need to figure out why I want things, and then tap into that desire to keep myself moving forward. Every time I start something — or just think about starting it — I need to remember what my motivation is, and then tap into that wellspring of passion to propel me forward.
I’ve only known this person for six months, a few weeks, and a few days.
She clearly doesn’t know me very well.
Relying on my motivation and frame of mind to move my life forward is a terrible idea. She’s not very helpful, in that respect.
Actually, come to think of it, I don’t need to solicit her for input. I myself know how I can fix my situation.
Basically, I need to foster the kinds of habits that keep me going in the direction I want to go. I need to build out a schedule and a routine that supports me in doing what I need to do. I’m heavily routine-driven, and I’m an inveterate creature of habit. So, if I get in the habit of doing the right thing(s) on a regular basis, at a regular cadence, I can pretty much rely on my routine-driven system — as it’s wired — to carry me through and keep me on track.
So long as I get adequate rest, I can pretty much rely on that.
Of course, if I wear myself out, then I run into issues.
But I don’t have to go there. I can pace myself, manage my energy, go to bed when I need to go to bed. Structure my life in a way that serves me, rather than dragging me down.
So, that’s what I’m going to do.
I’m in the final months of 2016, and there are some changes I want to make for next year. So, I’ll start making them now.
And I’ll use the strengths and particularly unique qualities and inclinations of my system to do it. And stick with it. In the ways that work best, in my own individual situation.