Not to start out on a sour note, but the sad fact is:
Abuse and mistreatment often go hand-in-hand with the Aspie life.
In my Alt Autistic/Aspergers Profile Builder (A3PB), I’ll be listing the following issues:
Interpersonal : Abuse
- Often misused and abused
- Abused or taken advantage of as a child but didn’t think to tell anyone
- Gives abusers the benefit of the doubt, may innocently suspect no wrongdoing on their part
- Feels sorry for someone who has persecuted or hurt them
- Sees abuse as the result of them having done something wrong, themself.
- Thinks abusive situations/people can be avoided by following certain rules.
- May have PTSD after history of mistreatment and abuse.
It’s critical to understand this aspect of living on the autistic spectrum, first and foremost. Most or all of the above happens all the time, to so many of us on the autistic spectrum. We need to look out for this, and understand this “soft underbelly” of our personalities, so we can protect ourselves and not unwittingly expose ourselves to more danger.
Extended periods of dealing with unscrupulous people… being taken advantage of, used and abused and mistreated and taken advantage of… is not only painful and difficult (and expensive). It can also add up to a hefty case of PTSD, as well as other mental health issues. This is equally as important for us Aspies and Auties to realize, as it is for treating professionals.
PTSD does not only happen as a result of sexual assault, incest, war, or other violent experiences. It can also aggregate from a variety of stresses in life. The subtleties of Aspie abuse and mistreatment need to be appreciated, in order to effectively treat — and not over-medicate or apply incorrect therapeutic interventions.
Attribution: I’ve derived the listed items from Tania Marshall’s Aspienwomen: Moving towards an adult female profile of Autism/Asperger Syndrome as well as Samantha Craft’s Females With Asperger’S Syndrome (Non-Official) Checklist, as well as my own observations.
Have you got any additional items you’d like to add with regard to this topic? Add your comments below. Thanks!